Yesterday I was tagged in a post by an old high school friend, asking me and a few others a very public, direct question about white privilege and racism. I feel compelled not only to publish his query but also my response to it, as it may be a helpful discourse for more than just a handful of folks on Facebook.
Here’s his post:
“To all of my Black or mixed race FB friends, I must profess a blissful ignorance of this “White Privilege” of which I’m apparently guilty of possessing. By not being able to fully put myself in the shoes of someone from a background/race/religion/gender/ nationality/body type that differs from my own makes me part of the problem, according to what I’m now hearing. Despite my treating everyone with respect and humor my entire life (as far as I know), I’m somehow complicit in the misfortune…
Hello friends. City girl/Hippie mom has just surpassed 100 likes on Facebook and that makes me want to celebrate. I’m going to give one of my followers a bottle of wild orange essential oil on Monday night. Share with your friends.
Thank you to all of you that are on this journey with me.
SAVE THE DATE!
Please join Michelle Inciong Wenis and I as we co-teach an “Essential Oils for Pregnancy, Babies & Your Family” class on Tues, Aug 23, 10am, at Kids Kingdom in Brookfield, CT.
All class attendees will receive COMPLIMENTARY PARTY CONSULTS for: baby showers, children’s birthday parties, baptisms, confirmations, bris celebrations, bat and bar mitzvah celebrations, etc. as well as future oils class hosts/hostess gifts. For more information: http://labonnefetect.com/.
All pregnant women in attendance will receive a PRIVATE COMPLIMENTARY “VIRTUAL Relaxation & Birth Centered Exercise” class & Moms/Dads/Partners/Caregivers with Pre-Crawlers will receive a “Special Gift” for attending Michelle’s upcoming “How We Grow – LITTLEseed Program Songs” Instructional Baby & Me Training, Saturday, Sept. 29th in Southbury. For more information on Green Woman & Your Childbirth, LLC Prenatal Services programs, check out www.greenwomanyc.me.
Please RSVP to either Michelle Inciong Wenis or Chanisa Bottali and look out for the FB Event invitation to register.
Unless you live on Mars, I’m sure you’ve heard of the Stanford Rapist, Brock Turner, and his bogus jail sentence of 6 months. And if you’re a sensible person (which I know you are if you’re reading this), then I know you’re outraged. Which you should be. This case is the epitome of white, male, upper class privilege. It outlines the total disgrace that is our court system and their handling of rape cases. It explains why most victims don’t even bother speaking up. But let me tell you something you may not realize. When you share that witty meme jabbing Turner with his smiling yearbook face in the background, you’re actually not helping.
If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you will know that I was a victim of rape. And similar to this case, my rapist was the stereotypical jock. An all star athlete, and popular kid, no one even believed me when I talked about it. Now, 14 years later, thanks to the technology that is facebook, the occasional photo of him will pop up in my newsfeed. Tagged in the friend of a friends picture from a party for instance. And every time it happens it’s like being punched in the chest. I struggle to catch my breath; my heart rate quickens; my palms become clammy. The idea of seeing him happy makes my blood boil and extremely anxious at the same time. And I feel the same way EVERY. TIME. I scroll past Turner’s prim and proper yearbook photo.
When we close our eyes and envision a “rapist” what comes to mind? I think back to what I might say before my assault. A creepy older man, dressed all in black, hood covering his face in shadow. But that’s not the typical rapist. They are the boys next door, the star athletes, the Brock Turners. Turner is not the smiling boy in his yearbook photo. He’s not even the smug looking man in his court photos. He is a monster. And sharing those photos don’t portray his pure evil. So I beg of you, as someone who has felt this real pain before, continue to share your petitions for justice and your articles giving exposure to the issues. But please, please, PLEASE stop sharing that smiling yearbook photo.
It’s that time of year again. When the hustle and bustle to get the garden going really starts. We were able to spend most of the holiday weekend just enjoying each other, swimming in the lake and playing in the sand.
But come Monday it was back to business. We got the garden planted (again) and got the irrigation put in. Let’s hope the little ladies understand that it isn’t their personal dust bath and dinner buffet this time. I’m looking forward to sharing all of our progress with you this summer. Enjoy the beautiful weather!
I absolutely LOVE couponing. It’s like finding money in each of my five (yes five) Sunday papers each week. And when you have a child with food allergies like I do, sometimes it’s the only way to provide the nutrition your kid needs, without breaking the bank.
So let’s play my favorite game…. Guess how much!! I have been torturing Hippie Hubby with this for years. I stack up all of my groceries and make him guess how little I spent on everything. You ready?
So today I went to my favorite grocery shopping place… CVS! (What? Doesn’t everyone go grocery shopping at CVS?!) I got 6 boxes of cereal, 5 packages of Tide Pods, 5 Bottles of soda (don’t shame my uncrunchiness here) and a bottle of Palmolive dish detergent. Can you guess how much I spent?
Let me know what you think. Go to my facebook page and comment your number on the game post. I’ll announce the winner and my total on Friday. The person with the closest to my total will get $5 off my Etsy page! Good Luck